When scary things are happening in the world, it can be hard for us as adults to manage our own emotions, let alone figure out the best way to support the children in our lives.
It may feel tempting to brush aside those feelings. But the truth is, kids are paying attention. They notice the images they see, the words they hear, and the emotions felt by others.
When the news feels heavy or overwhelming, here are some simple, meaningful ways adults can show up for children.
Start with safety
That means helping children feel grounded first—slow breaths, calm bodies, and reassurance. Sometimes the most powerful words are simply, “I’m here with you.” This helps us meet children exactly where they are.
Get curious, not judgmental
Gently explore what they’re thinking and feeling. Ask what they’ve heard, what they understand, and what questions they might have. There’s no need to correct or fix right away—just listen.
Let their questions guide you
What children share helps us know what information they need. Listen closely and reflect back what you hear. Naming their thoughts and feelings helps children feel seen, understood, and gives them a sense of control.
Support looks different at different ages
- For children ages 0–5, comfort, routine, and reassurance matter most.
- For children ages 6–12, honesty is key—shared in simple, age-appropriate ways. Offer clear explanations and space for questions. Clarify misinformation calmly and say things like, “Here’s what I know about what’s happening,” or “This is what I’m hearing you say.”
- For teens, open and honest conversations are essential. Listen deeply, offer support, and invite them into action if they want it. Talking about fairness, justice, and values can help teens process what feels hurtful or hopeful in the world.
Show them they are surrounded by safe adults
Name the parents, teachers, neighbors, friends, and caregivers who love and support them. Check in often.
Ask how they’re feeling, what they’re thinking about, and if new questions have come up—and answer honestly.
Don’t underestimate the power of play
When life feels heavy, play gives us permission to pause. It helps children (and adults!) relax, connect, and find joy in the moment.
Through play, we can work through emotions, reduce stress, build resilience, and remind ourselves that even when the world feels uncertain, moments of light still exist.
As Fred Rogers said: “What children probably need to hear most from us adults is that they can talk with us about anything, and that we will do all we can to keep them safe in any scary time.”
Additional resources
Talking to kids about U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (I.C.E.) actions – Children’s Minnesota
Talking To Kids About Fear And Violence | Mental Health America
How To Talk To Kids About Tragedies In The Media | Parenting Today
Special thanks to our Board Member Nikki Eining for supporting the curation of these resources.
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